Connection before Correction
While doing right leads to healthy relationships, the Bible also promotes the opposite: healthy relationships leads to doing right. Healthy relationships start between human and the divine, and then...
View ArticleEffective Listening
What are some criteria for effective listening in the Bible? Some seek to correct more than connect when “listening” and find the discussion frustrating. Use the following as a checklist to accomplish...
View ArticleHow to Stay Married
God gave us marriage to experience what He is like. Can this be? Genesis 1:26-28 tells us, “Then God said, ‘Let us (the triune God) make man in our image, in our likeness…’ So God created man in his...
View ArticleMaking Marriage Work
As a marriage and family therapist I have learned countless number of techniques to help marriages and family relationships work. The one that works best by far is the unconditional love of Christ. How...
View ArticleA Mediation Model for Christians
Jesus was fully immersed in the identity, experiences and perspective of both God and man as mediator between the two. So for mediation to be successful, each has to identify with the experience and...
View ArticleI Can’t Listen When Triggered
Welcome to the club. Triggers are strong emotions that overwhelm our ability to listen effectively and think clearly. They are essentially emotional memories that are part the past and part the...
View ArticleGottman’s Sound Relationship House
Depression, anxiety, and divorce are continuing to rise. The fallout on marriages and parenting is immense. It may be time to get back to core values of marriage and family. One question to ask...
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